17 August 2010

The Pillars of Patience.

"This is one more piece of advice I have for you: don't get impatient. Even if things are so tangled up you can't do anything, don't get desperate or blow a fuse and start yanking on one particular thread before it's ready to come undone. You have to realize it's going to be a long process and that you"ll work on things slowly, one at a time."
- Norwegian Wood

It's interesting how coincidences occur.

I'm currently reading a book entitled "Norwegian Wood" by my favorite author Haruki Murakami. It's shaping to be one of my favorites early on and I'm only halfway through it. The detail is impeccable and his style is just so smooth and invigorating. It's the type that really mesmerizes your imagination and continuously inspires your thought. That is how I aspire to write...or more specifically, that is how I aspire to be a writer.

But going back to my point, the quote above is something I wrote down because I felt it might help me at a certain time. Lo and behold, a few hours later and some brain cells ignited out of exasperation due to a certain circumstance, I found myself reflecting on it, almost trying to receive salvation from these very words in order to regain composure and a clear state of mind.

As one can tell, I'm very opinionated and though I wouldn't necessarily say my reason and logic are easily trumped by my emotion, I will admit that when a fire is lit in me, it takes quite a load of energy to reach balance once again. I am not easily angered and I usually handle things with clear-cut rationale and an open-mind, but once I pass my threshold, I rely heavily on Discipline and meditation to stop me from what I would or could have done otherwise...

However, what I'm stressing here is the value of patience. True, you can receive it as bullshit and say that you cannot be "patient" forever but how it is approached in the quote struck me. Our obstacles can be seen as an entangled ball of thread that needs to be slowly straightened before it can "come undone." Insistence and violently yanking it will not help and only make it worse. It requires patience, or it will never be solved.

But I am going to add what I feel is just as important as this underrated virtue:

1) Pro-activity

The thread will not unsnarl itself. You cannot expect to be "patient" with no action. You have to create possibilities for yourself, and your ultimate goal will be a step closer and easier to reach than you think.

2) Desire

If you do try to disentangle the thread but it only gets more complex and goes farther from the goal of straightening it, don't quit. Try harder, but with more focus. Despite the disappointments that may come, and the lack of positive response you receive with being "pro-active," you have to remain dedicated to your objective.

3) Strategy

If you've been doing the same thing to get the thread undone and it doesn't work, find another way. So if your plan of action isn't working then obviously there isn't a damn reason to keep it. It is better to have multiple ways of approaching a problem than having only one way that works "occasionally." Through this you provide yourself with better chances of achieving success.

4) Discipline

Like I have already mentioned, this pillar is just as crucial as patience in order to gain control and ward off frustration, intolerance and restlessness. The thread was once straight, which means it is not an impossible feat to disentangle it regardless of how ridiculous it can get. You always have to view your goal as a possibility. Otherwise, the second you limit yourself is the second you fail.

Now it might sound contradictory from the advice I'm sharing, but obviously there will be times when you have to say "fuck it" because too much patience can result in idleness and prevent you from chasing other dreams that you are better suited for.

Be mindful of the value of patience, but also keep in mind sometimes your energies can be focused towards something else that can give you a better gain. Above everything - you cannot lose the drive to become better. At the end of the day, that is your ultimate goal.

But remember, when you get stuck, when shit isn't going your way, when you've been trying but you haven't received good feedback - use all of these to boost your hunger. Keep trying. Remain driven. Switch your game plan. Stay focused. And most of all, be fucking patient. If you quit now, you will never see the result that you dream of.

So go out there and fucking get it.

Song: "Make Your Move" by Hieroglyphics feat. Goapele (9th Wonder Remix)
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